I recently made a very hasty decision to put an offer in on a house. When I first saw the house, it had everything I wanted; a 3-car garage, almost a half an acre of land, 2 bedrooms, hardwood floors, and the price was right. When my friends and family came with me to see the house, they were shocked that I would even put an offer on it. They couldn't see what I was seeing, but I saw the potential. I saw what it could be rather than what it was. After paying over $1200 in fees, in the end the inspection showed that there were far more issues than what I could have ever imagined. I had two options: sign a mutual release and walk away, potentially losing the $1200 I put into it, or negotiate with the sellers to get a majority of the issues fixed and continue with the purchase knowing all the issues. Everyone kept telling me “If you walk away now and lose what you’ve already invested, it will not compare to what you will lose if you stay committed and go through with it.”
This weekend I had a light bulb moment. God showed me that this is what we do in life. We hold on to things and/or people far longer than we should, when we have an opportunity to release it, but we stay because of what we’ve already invested. In the beginning we see something others don’t, and then as time goes on and the damage is exposed, we have a choice to make and most times we fail to assess the risk. Sometimes it’s best just to sign a “mutual release” and walk away.
Interestingly enough, when I signed the Mutual Release on the house, letting the sellers know I was no longer interested, they did not approve, causing me to lose my Earnest Money. Because I saw the potential in the house, it was hard for me to walk away and the other party made it clear they wanted me to move forward, but I had to recognize what was going on beneath the surface.
Walking away can mean losing more than just monetary investments; it could be pride, dignity, love, the sense of belonging, companionship, humility. But the Bible says that God will give us beauty for ashes (Isaiah 61:3). God showed me that through this experience that it’s okay to let go of things, whether it’s mutual or not. When you feel like you’ve failed, leaving what you’ve invested behind, we can have peace and rest in his GRACE.
2 Corinthians 12:9
Each time he said, "My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness." So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me.
If you feel the Holy Spirit nudging you to walk away, now is the time. Don’t wait until you are in over your head. Assess the situation and be honest with yourself. You know in your gut and in your heart when walking away is better than holding on. And when you don’t have the strength to do it, just remember the power of God’s GRACE is sufficient in your weakness.
Thank you for joining me in Finding Grace.
Enjoy the journey
(p.s.. the photo for this post was taken from the Instagram page of author Bob Goff. Check out his AMAZING book, "Love Does".)