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brandee allen

Watered Down

Watered Down

In the height of social media, we love, like, LOL, SMH, FML, thumbs up, thumbs down, swipe right, swipe left and the list goes on. If you are not familiar with these terms, I suggest you catch up or get left behind.

As millennials, and every generation that follows us, we have learned to communicate in ways our parents and grandparents may never understand or agree with. From Urban Dictionary to hashtags, we have formed our own language that will continue to expand as social media continues to grow.

We don’t talk, we text. We don’t date, we swipe. We don’t just make an appearance, we selfie. We post. We rant. We stream. We add filters.  *DEEP BREATH IN*

When do we ever just stop?!

Our entire life revolves around a “like”. We post photos and our opinions all day in hopes that people will “like” what we have to say and what we look like. In Kendrick Lamar’s recent hit single “Humble”, he says “I’m so so sick and tired of the Photoshop, show me something natural…”

We have diluted our life with filters and people’s need for approval so much that we don’t even know what real or natural is anymore. We have bad relationships because we’ve become so consumed with how social media portrays fantasy as real life. Then when life smacks us in the face with REALITY, we don’t have a filter to fix it.

A friend of mine recently became discouraged looking at her friend’s Easter family photos and gatherings. As she looked at what people portrayed on Instagram and Facebook, she seemingly desired what appeared to be closeness, joy and love. When in reality (let’s be honest) we don’t even like our families! Most of us can agree that the holidays are more stressful and enjoyable.

I find myself getting discouraged looking at my friends who are getting engaged and starting families. Seeing women with perfect bodies, dating the perfect guy, with perfect white teeth, both smiling and in love. When in reality, that’s not how they look in real life. And more than likely, they are both miserable in their relationship but portraying it on social media as “perfect” and getting “likes” makes them feel better about the truth of the situation.

Proverbs 31:30 says "Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting…"

At the end of the day, we have lost sight of what love really is. We say we looooooove that dress and the following season we’re giving it to the Goodwill. Then when I’m dealing with a real life situation, people say “God loves you”. Well, does he love me the same way I loved that dress? Because if so, that’s not the kind of love I want!

It’s time to stop the madness. Who and what do you love? Matthew 6:24 says “No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to one and despise the other.” 

In the midst of all this noise in our life, we have forgotten our first love. The word “love” is found in the bible over three hundred times. You can sit for hours on your phone and like all the photos you want, but you will not TRULY UNDERSTAND LOVE until you open your bible and begin to understand God’s character and what he has done for you and I. 

“But you have walked away from your first love- why? What’s going on with you, anyway? Do you have any idea how far you’ve fallen? A Lucifer fall! Turn back! Recover your dear early love. No time to waste…”
Revelation 2:4-5 MSG

I challenge each of you to read a verse a day on love. If your life feels watered down, go back to your first love, which is God! He loved us first! When you feel unloved, return to the Word of God and let him show you how much you are loved.

We have hundreds of “friends” online and fail to understand what a relationship really is. We like a lot, maybe we even LOVE a lot. Every day we double tap. But let me remind you what REAL LOVE is:

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 
It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 
Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.

1 Corinthians 13:4-8

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